Are the Foreign (Especially Russian and Ukrainian) Brides Coached?

HAH, this is an easy one to answer. Da Da Da, the girls are coached and coached and coached.  They know EXACTLY what to say and when to say it.  Did yo ever notice that when yo ask them why they are looking for a foreign man, the universal answer is "Ukrainian men are abusive and all they want to do is drink beer and watch football (soccer)".  The girls maintain that all Ukrainian men have multiple girlfriends too. 

I know a LOT of Ukrainian men - both here and in Ukraine.  I would not say that there is much truth to the above situations.  However, there is a favorable ratio of women to men (favorable for men).  There does appear to be a culture tendency for men to have mistresses. It is almost acceptable to women.

The important thing here is that we speak with many men and women from foreign countries.  We listen to them.  We also help the girls find men!  We help them know which men are serious and which ones are married, flirting or just looking for sex (doesn't make them bad people - LOL).  The serious and legitimate girls ask us a lot of questions. They want to know about culture and the mindset of western men.  I state "western men" but we do have a growing number of men from Asia that seek our assistance and this is not a bad thing as many Slavic girls are interested in Asian culture.

The serious and legitimate girls have to be "de-programmed" from the crud that agency managers and translators have instilled in them.  We strip away the B.S. and myths and tell them the truth!! This process enables us to know which girls are serious.  It is also interesting to see the violent reaction that agency managers and translators have to US!!!  They quickly assess that they are losing control of their profit center (the girl) and they respond in very un-lady like manners!! One such agency manager and translator may have a hit out on Ken!!!!

Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D
http://www.BestMeetingClub.com

Don't Believe the Photos of Online Foreign Brides!!!!

We have taken some time to review and change our business structure after many clients asked for different assistance. We will be offering more trips and personalized service to clients who desire that. We have found that when we go to a foreign country with you, there is a much higher probability of success.

One of the things that we have wanted to talk about is the astounding amount of fraud and misrepresentation by the girls with respect to the girls' profile photos. Many online photos have been edited and altered.  The girls and their agency managers and others have become adapt at utilizing editing software (frequently referred to as PhotoShop which is now part of the Adobe platform).

Many men have commented that they were disappointed when they traveled thousands of miles only to find out that the girl was materially different than advertised. Yes, the girls complain about this too and men should not misrepresent themselves. However, the men have significant financial interest buy the time they travel to meet a girl.  Our experience is that some active girls on foreign dating sites are as much as 6 inches shorter than advertised; 30-40 pounds different than advertised and even many situations in which a girl stated that she had no children when in fact they have children.  They will claim that the profile was created when she had not children and it was not updated. The only thing that is accurate MOST of the time is the birthday and year of birth.

Below is an example of photo editing. This girl is currently on HotRussianBrides.com . I am not stating that there is fraud here, but caveat emptor certainly prevails. One of the concerning features of this profile is that the girl indicates that she has no children when clearly she does. We have contacted HotRussianBrides.com and reported this. Perhaps they will take action but it is unlikely since the biggest problem is that the photos are accurate (albeit disturbing).

Girl from Moldova:

Paddy Deighan, J.D. Ph.D

http://www.BestMeetingClub.com

Awesome Quote from History!

I am frequently astounded that quotes from history...quotes that may have been made hundreds of years ago, are still true today (if not truer today). I was watching a history program on late night cable and there was a quote from Thomas Jefferson that rally caught my attention.  Mr. Jefferson stated: “My reading of history convinces me that most bad government results from too much government.” 

How did he know this type of thing? How could they be so acutely aware of the affect of anything on the future. I suppose that some things are fundmanetal and apparently, Mr Jerfferson stated this after reading history. Perhaps we all need to read a little more history.

Sooooo, I decided to read a few more quotes from Mr. Jefferson since has many quotes as they pertain to government and because I have had a fascination about him since graduate school at WIlliam and Mary.  He was a tall man yet his desk at William and Mary is tiny!!!! I always wanted to try and sit in it (it is roped off of course)!!!

Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

An Important Update on Facebook Privacy

I have never been a particular fan of Facebook. They do not respect privacy and they allow politics to interfere in the social networking sphere and there is no place for this in their reality.. They are allowed to do things with information that you are not allowed to do…adding to my disdain for them. True, they have SOME usefulness and hence, Facebook must be tolerated to some degree. You have all seen the Facebook ads that show us an image of one of our friends and notify us that this particular friend likes some particular brand or product.  However, were you aware that these images could not only be used to endorse products that you have already “liked,” but also those that have nothing whatsoever to do with you AND without your providing any permission other than simply using Facebook?

Facebook recently settled a class action lawsuit regarding this practice. The settlement and resulting privacy-policy “clarifications” actually just make the practice legitimate. According to Facebook’s revised privacy policy, “you give us permission to use your name, profile picture, content, and information in connection with commercial, sponsored, or related content…served or enhanced by us…without any compensation to you.” WHAT????? This means Facebook can use your images basically anywhere, at any time, and for any reason.

The class-action lawsuit was brought by a man whose wife’s image was used in this manner to advertise a “hot singles” service, but despite the fact that Facebook ultimately settled, the judge who approved the settlement even said that “it is far from clear [that the plaintiffs] could ever have shown they were actually harmed in any meaningful way.” The only way to opt out of this term of use is to quit Facebook completely. Facebook has also received criticism lately for another relatively new feature that takes facial recognition to a new level in order to suggest tagging options for pictures. Not to mention that htis comes from a paragon of privacy protection, ABC News LOL Be forewarned!!!

Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

http://bestmeetingclub.com

How Accurate are International Online Dating Profiles

Many men complain about deception and deceptive practices in the quest to meet and marry foreign women and brides. Deception can be a commonly occurring issue with international internet dating. I have to laugh when the major websites CLAIM that they do all that they can to prevent deceptive practices!!! 

No one wants to waste their time on someone who‘s not even available for a serious relationship. The foreign brides are often required to complete a video validation procedure (frequently referred to as an "attestation").

The foreign brides read and sign an attestation document, and they affirm their statements on video.  promise They further state that they are on the website with honest intentions of developing a meaningful relationship or marriage. They also agree to follow the Terms of Use, which require all profile information to be true, including marital status.

Nastya S. (profile available to members only)

This all sounds GREAT!! However...this is not commonly followed by the websites and the fraud lies in the AGENCIES..and not the websites.  The AGENCIES create the videos and attestations.  Many Ukrainian and Russian brides have as many as THREE passports!! In fact, because of language translation issues (all passports are also translated into English) the Russian brides and foreign wives are allowed THREE mistakes on a passport!!!

The ONLY aspect of a passport that is universally correct is the AGE! Marital status is NOT on an international passport!!!

The next concern that men have is being deliberately deceived by fictitious profile pictures. The men worry that a foreign bride looks too good to be true.  Look CLOSELY at the photos....frequently, you will find one that appears to be a different girl or yo will find one that is the girl without extensive photo shop treatments. The agencies are MASTERS at deception and photo shoots and photo shop are no exceptions!!

Many men rarely believe the age a woman lists on her profile because they are known to often lie about it. Lying about age is another issue that frightens single men. My own sister indicates that it is a woman's prerogative to lie about her age!!!! As I mentioned, age is about the ONLY thing that is accurate about a lot of the profiles.

A foreign bride's age is easily verified and there is not reason to worry about that issue. 

All of the international websites prides themselves on being an international dating website that members can truly trust. 

Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

How Is BestMeetingClub.com Different from Other Dating Websites?

How is BestMeetingClub.com different from other dating websites and agencies?  There are essentially three different types of service for men to meet foreign brides.  There are traditional dating websites in which men and women post profiles and there are various ways for them to exchange information and communicate. Examples of this type of dating website are Match.com and eharmony.com

The next version of dating websites is “matchmaker” websites.  This version of dating site enrolls men and women into the service and then the staff of the agency selects candidates based upon proprietary formulas. Examples of this type of service are Its JustLunch and the Millionaire MatchMaker program on TV.

The third type of dating website is an introduction service.  Best Meeting Club is this type of dating website and we believe that you will find it to be your best option.  An introduction service allows men and women to communicate in whatever manner is suitable for them. The men and women decide with whom they want to communicate.

Our format is particularly well suited for international dating websites because there are no complications and problems with agencies and translators.  As we have stated in previous blogs, agencies and translators are the root of all evil in the realm of international dating websites. Their goal is to deprive you of your hard earned money. They do this very successfully as many men pay and pay and pay and get no results.

The girls on our dating website have been interviewed extensively on an on-going basis. If they violate any of our policies, they are removed from the website. We have never had to do this because the girls trust us and they are sincere in their search for a good man. They know that BestMeetingClub.com is their best option.  We are also very selective in what girls to put on the website. We reject more girls than we accept. How many dating websites can make this claim? Answer: NONE!!!!

Paddy Deighan JD PhD

http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

Oksana B (profile available to members only)

The Russian Bride Subject That No One wants to talk About...MONEY!!!

Money Money Money!!  Russian Brides and money.  I have friends that moved from Ukraine 10 years ago and about 13 years ago (they are men). I CANNOT convince them that Russian brides actually want love and not just money!!!  Men that travel to Ukraine, Russian and other Eastern European countries sometimes mention that they feel the ladies are only in it for money.

Do You Russian Brides Only Want Money?

The answer is yes and no!!!  Studies show that most women view security and protection as two of the most important issues that they want a man to provide. Part of security is a roof over your head and food. C'mon guys, EVERY woman wants that!!  Having said this, some women are reasonable about this while others are not!! This includes you Slavic love!

It is certainly reasonable to expect to provide some level of support while you are dating a Russian bride.  If an American man is dating an American woman, he will support her in one way or another. Sure, you may not be paying her rent or university bills, but you are paying for dates, gifts and everything else.

What Amount is Reasonable?

We have spoken to many men and Slavic women about this.  The average monthly wage in Ukraine for a woman is about $350/mo!! Yes, per MONTH!! Obviously, some make more but the median wage for a woman there is about $300/mo.!  It is reasonable for them to expect, request or politely suggest about $500/mo.  That amount would pay for a decent to nice apartment (depending upon city and location).  This would take a lot of stress away from the lady and make her feel good and have a night out or two (or make-up purchase). This is not unreasonable and realize guys...these girls have been deprived for a long time and when you come to their country and show her a good time, she will expect SOME level of support.

Online international dating IS expensive. Travel, translators, hotel, taxis...and some support.  The rewards are great because these ladies make great wives!!

Paddy Deighan JD PhD

http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

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