Are the Foreign (Especially Russian and Ukrainian) Brides Coached?

HAH, this is an easy one to answer. Da Da Da, the girls are coached and coached and coached.  They know EXACTLY what to say and when to say it.  Did yo ever notice that when yo ask them why they are looking for a foreign man, the universal answer is "Ukrainian men are abusive and all they want to do is drink beer and watch football (soccer)".  The girls maintain that all Ukrainian men have multiple girlfriends too. 

I know a LOT of Ukrainian men - both here and in Ukraine.  I would not say that there is much truth to the above situations.  However, there is a favorable ratio of women to men (favorable for men).  There does appear to be a culture tendency for men to have mistresses. It is almost acceptable to women.

The important thing here is that we speak with many men and women from foreign countries.  We listen to them.  We also help the girls find men!  We help them know which men are serious and which ones are married, flirting or just looking for sex (doesn't make them bad people - LOL).  The serious and legitimate girls ask us a lot of questions. They want to know about culture and the mindset of western men.  I state "western men" but we do have a growing number of men from Asia that seek our assistance and this is not a bad thing as many Slavic girls are interested in Asian culture.

The serious and legitimate girls have to be "de-programmed" from the crud that agency managers and translators have instilled in them.  We strip away the B.S. and myths and tell them the truth!! This process enables us to know which girls are serious.  It is also interesting to see the violent reaction that agency managers and translators have to US!!!  They quickly assess that they are losing control of their profit center (the girl) and they respond in very un-lady like manners!! One such agency manager and translator may have a hit out on Ken!!!!

Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D
http://www.BestMeetingClub.com

Don't Believe the Photos of Online Foreign Brides!!!!

We have taken some time to review and change our business structure after many clients asked for different assistance. We will be offering more trips and personalized service to clients who desire that. We have found that when we go to a foreign country with you, there is a much higher probability of success.

One of the things that we have wanted to talk about is the astounding amount of fraud and misrepresentation by the girls with respect to the girls' profile photos. Many online photos have been edited and altered.  The girls and their agency managers and others have become adapt at utilizing editing software (frequently referred to as PhotoShop which is now part of the Adobe platform).

Many men have commented that they were disappointed when they traveled thousands of miles only to find out that the girl was materially different than advertised. Yes, the girls complain about this too and men should not misrepresent themselves. However, the men have significant financial interest buy the time they travel to meet a girl.  Our experience is that some active girls on foreign dating sites are as much as 6 inches shorter than advertised; 30-40 pounds different than advertised and even many situations in which a girl stated that she had no children when in fact they have children.  They will claim that the profile was created when she had not children and it was not updated. The only thing that is accurate MOST of the time is the birthday and year of birth.

Below is an example of photo editing. This girl is currently on HotRussianBrides.com . I am not stating that there is fraud here, but caveat emptor certainly prevails. One of the concerning features of this profile is that the girl indicates that she has no children when clearly she does. We have contacted HotRussianBrides.com and reported this. Perhaps they will take action but it is unlikely since the biggest problem is that the photos are accurate (albeit disturbing).

Girl from Moldova:

Paddy Deighan, J.D. Ph.D

http://www.BestMeetingClub.com

How Accurate are International Online Dating Profiles

Many men complain about deception and deceptive practices in the quest to meet and marry foreign women and brides. Deception can be a commonly occurring issue with international internet dating. I have to laugh when the major websites CLAIM that they do all that they can to prevent deceptive practices!!! 

No one wants to waste their time on someone who‘s not even available for a serious relationship. The foreign brides are often required to complete a video validation procedure (frequently referred to as an "attestation").

The foreign brides read and sign an attestation document, and they affirm their statements on video.  promise They further state that they are on the website with honest intentions of developing a meaningful relationship or marriage. They also agree to follow the Terms of Use, which require all profile information to be true, including marital status.

Nastya S. (profile available to members only)

This all sounds GREAT!! However...this is not commonly followed by the websites and the fraud lies in the AGENCIES..and not the websites.  The AGENCIES create the videos and attestations.  Many Ukrainian and Russian brides have as many as THREE passports!! In fact, because of language translation issues (all passports are also translated into English) the Russian brides and foreign wives are allowed THREE mistakes on a passport!!!

The ONLY aspect of a passport that is universally correct is the AGE! Marital status is NOT on an international passport!!!

The next concern that men have is being deliberately deceived by fictitious profile pictures. The men worry that a foreign bride looks too good to be true.  Look CLOSELY at the photos....frequently, you will find one that appears to be a different girl or yo will find one that is the girl without extensive photo shop treatments. The agencies are MASTERS at deception and photo shoots and photo shop are no exceptions!!

Many men rarely believe the age a woman lists on her profile because they are known to often lie about it. Lying about age is another issue that frightens single men. My own sister indicates that it is a woman's prerogative to lie about her age!!!! As I mentioned, age is about the ONLY thing that is accurate about a lot of the profiles.

A foreign bride's age is easily verified and there is not reason to worry about that issue. 

All of the international websites prides themselves on being an international dating website that members can truly trust. 

Paddy Deighan J.D. Ph.D

http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

How Is BestMeetingClub.com Different from Other Dating Websites?

How is BestMeetingClub.com different from other dating websites and agencies?  There are essentially three different types of service for men to meet foreign brides.  There are traditional dating websites in which men and women post profiles and there are various ways for them to exchange information and communicate. Examples of this type of dating website are Match.com and eharmony.com

The next version of dating websites is “matchmaker” websites.  This version of dating site enrolls men and women into the service and then the staff of the agency selects candidates based upon proprietary formulas. Examples of this type of service are Its JustLunch and the Millionaire MatchMaker program on TV.

The third type of dating website is an introduction service.  Best Meeting Club is this type of dating website and we believe that you will find it to be your best option.  An introduction service allows men and women to communicate in whatever manner is suitable for them. The men and women decide with whom they want to communicate.

Our format is particularly well suited for international dating websites because there are no complications and problems with agencies and translators.  As we have stated in previous blogs, agencies and translators are the root of all evil in the realm of international dating websites. Their goal is to deprive you of your hard earned money. They do this very successfully as many men pay and pay and pay and get no results.

The girls on our dating website have been interviewed extensively on an on-going basis. If they violate any of our policies, they are removed from the website. We have never had to do this because the girls trust us and they are sincere in their search for a good man. They know that BestMeetingClub.com is their best option.  We are also very selective in what girls to put on the website. We reject more girls than we accept. How many dating websites can make this claim? Answer: NONE!!!!

Paddy Deighan JD PhD

http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

Oksana B (profile available to members only)

The Russian Bride Subject That No One wants to talk About...MONEY!!!

Money Money Money!!  Russian Brides and money.  I have friends that moved from Ukraine 10 years ago and about 13 years ago (they are men). I CANNOT convince them that Russian brides actually want love and not just money!!!  Men that travel to Ukraine, Russian and other Eastern European countries sometimes mention that they feel the ladies are only in it for money.

Do You Russian Brides Only Want Money?

The answer is yes and no!!!  Studies show that most women view security and protection as two of the most important issues that they want a man to provide. Part of security is a roof over your head and food. C'mon guys, EVERY woman wants that!!  Having said this, some women are reasonable about this while others are not!! This includes you Slavic love!

It is certainly reasonable to expect to provide some level of support while you are dating a Russian bride.  If an American man is dating an American woman, he will support her in one way or another. Sure, you may not be paying her rent or university bills, but you are paying for dates, gifts and everything else.

What Amount is Reasonable?

We have spoken to many men and Slavic women about this.  The average monthly wage in Ukraine for a woman is about $350/mo!! Yes, per MONTH!! Obviously, some make more but the median wage for a woman there is about $300/mo.!  It is reasonable for them to expect, request or politely suggest about $500/mo.  That amount would pay for a decent to nice apartment (depending upon city and location).  This would take a lot of stress away from the lady and make her feel good and have a night out or two (or make-up purchase). This is not unreasonable and realize guys...these girls have been deprived for a long time and when you come to their country and show her a good time, she will expect SOME level of support.

Online international dating IS expensive. Travel, translators, hotel, taxis...and some support.  The rewards are great because these ladies make great wives!!

Paddy Deighan JD PhD

http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

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Irina P

When Can You Expect Affection from Your Russian Bride?

When can you expect affection from your Russian bride? HAH, GOOD question and it is not an easy one to answer because there are cultural, religious and logistical issues.

Many men indicate to us that they are frustrated by a seemingly complete lack of affection from their Russian or Ukrainian girl. Men travel thousands of miles to visit his lady and she acts like he has the plague. Sound familiar?  Virtually every guy seems to experience this phenomenon.  We have spoken to many, many Ukrainian girls about this and their explanations merit discussion.

First, since you are meeting the girl online, she has undoubtedly been in chat with hundreds of men.  Many of those men talk about sex, request video sex chat or otherwise emphasize the physical aspects of a relationship. Sex and intimacy is important to these girls but they do not feel that it is a basis for a relationship.

Another issue is that the Russian and Ukrainian girls live in a fear based society.  Trust me when I tell you , they have a paranoic fear of getting pregnant!! Think about it...how many girls do you know there that have a sister or friend that became pregnant and it altered their life?  The religious issues kick in here too as the girls will generally not consider termination of pregnancy and they are taught that sex is for procreation.

Despite, this, they are women and they do enjoy physical intimacy!!

The logistical issues are relevant too. The girls know that when you make love, you will be going home shortly thereafter (preferably not 10 minutes later -LOL). This is not a good feeling for them.  They also tend to put a man visiting form another country on the "marriage track" and they are less likely to engage in physical intimacy early on in a relationship.

So, When is it Likely that they will be Affectionate?

The best answer is that it is prudent to get your Russian bride away from her friends and family and place her in a position that you can be alone.  Yes, I am suggesting the dreaded travel test!!  Most girls will agree to travel with you after three or four visits to her country.  If she lives in Odessa, take her to Kiev for a weekend or to another country.  At this point, the relationship is getting serious and the girl will have affection on her mind and in her heart.

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Marina E, 27 

Options to Find Love Online

There are only two basic options to find love online.  The first option is traditional dating websites such as Eharmony.com and Match.com. The second are international websites such as Anastasiadate.com and HotRussianBrides.com. There are advantages and disadvantages to both options.

Most men that try international dating sites have tried traditional dating sites and their lack of success drove them to international dating sites.  The problems with international dating sites now have many men scratching their heads for the right approach.

I read an article last evening that compelled me to write about this.  I tried eharmony some time ago. I am 6'4" tall and 270 lbs - a former professional rugby player with two doctorates.  The geniuses at eharmony came up with a 5'1' welder as my ideal match and she was not even in my geographical area.  NICE!! I tried Match.com and it is the law of abundance...the minute a candidate does something that you do not like, you delete them and move on because there are so many more profiles!!  I do not know anyone that has had success with this.  In fact, I do not know anyone that successfully met a match on traditional dating sites. Anyway, eharmony was rated #2 and Zoosk.com (NO WAY!) was #1 (sure, with the Hello Kitty crowd) LOL

The international dating sites have their share of problems too. language barriers, scammers, distance, the AGENCIES, translators, etc. The fraud is staggering to the level that it boggles the mind.

So, What is the Best Approach?

Naturally, we believe that we have taken the best approach because we maximize the likelihood of success and minimize the risk. Additionally, we do not "arrange" dates or weddings as many introduction or matchmaking services do. We let you see all of the girls and you and the girl decide how you will communicate and meet, etc. Then we minimize the risk as we provide translators that are paid a fixed amount and the minute they try and scam you, they are FIRED! The translators are evil to the core (not ours, of course - we train and treat them well)!! Since October 2012 when we started this, we have not had to fire any translators (one is on double secret probation now -LOL) because we pay them well and they no that we have a zero tolerance policy.

Guys,you can keep doing what you are doing now and having the same lack of success, or you can join us an enjoy the experience for a change! Slavic women DO make awesome wives and mothers.  One of our clients is meeting his lady now for the first time and she has a sister and nephew.  Our client is astounded at how attentive the girls are to the child.  Of course he DID mention to me that  the child needs to be around MEN because the boy has already learned the subtle art of manipulation. He cries, they run to him!! Nyet nyet nyet!!

I digress....

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Dasha K, 19, Odessa

SEO Basics as Google Announces Penguin 2.0 Update

Many SEO enthusiasts are in a state of panic over announced changed to Google search engine algorithms. Google is gradually implementing Penguin 2.0 and many are concerned that there SEO efforts will be adversely affected.

I decided to write some SEO basics that pertain to most search engine since Google isn't the only one ya know!! BING has made significant strides lately.

1. Check the Popularity of Keywords

In order to obtain traffic from keyword searches on the major search engines like Google, BING and Yahoo!, you need to be writing about a topic that people want to read about and are actively looking for information about. One of the easiest ways to get a basic idea of what people are looking for online is to check the popularity of keyword searches on websites like Wordtracker, Google Trends or the Yahoo! Buzz Index. These will each give you a clear indication of the keywords that are being searched and you can check many different phrases.

2. Select Specific and Relevant Keywords

It is prudent to select one keyword phrase per page then optimize that page to that keyword phrase. Keywords should be relevant to the overall content of your page. Furthermore, choose specific keywords that are more likely to give you a better search results ranking than a broad term would. For example, consider how many sites use the keyword phrase of "ancient pottery." The competition for ranking using that keyword is likely to be tough. If you choose a more specific keyword like "13^th Century Chinese Pottery," the competition is a lot easier.

3. Select a Keyword Phrase of 2 or 3 Words

Statistics show that nearly 60% of keyword searches include 2 or 3 keywords. Accordingly, optimize your pages for searches on keyword phrases of 2 or 3 words to drive the biggest results.

4. Use Your Keyword Phrase in Your Title

Once you select the keyword phrase you plan to optimize your page for, make sure you use that phrase in the title of your blog post (or web page).

5. Use Your Keyword Phrase in Your Subtitle and Headlines

Utilizing subtitles and section headlines not only makes the blog more visually appealing on a text heavy computer screen, but it also gives you additional opportunities to use your keyword phrase.

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Paddy Deighan, J.D. Ph.D
http://www.BestMeetingClub.com

Sasha S

What to Look For in a Russian Bride...

First and foremost, Happy Memorial Day to everyone!! My dad served as a Marine on Iwo Jima and he survived (he was in the third wave). This holiday is about a lot more than hot dogs and parades. Hug a Vet..they are the reason that we have freedom (for as long as we still have it)!!

We touched on some of the warning signs to determine whether your Russian bride is sincere..I thought that it is a good time to talk about the single biggest thing that you should look for from your Russian bride.  The ONE thing that should be non-negotiable for you is CONSISTENCY.  This issue includes inconsistency as a possible deal breaker.

It is imperative that you look for consistency in your Russian bride. Consistency will ferret out some of the less sincere girls. Look for consistency on multiple levels.  Does she follow up on things that she says that she will do (be online at a certain time for example).  Does she remember things about your life (such as a birthday)? Does she remember and discuss topics that you spoke about in a prior chat (vacation plans, events etc)? 

"Consistency" also is an indication of insincerity. Is your Russian bride ALWAYS online? Be careful with this one guys, the agencies employ "hacker" software that enables a profile to appear to be online in order to get interest from guys..when a man requests chat the profile beeps and any girl that is working in the agency will jump on the profile to chat!  I have seen this with my own eyes....5, 6 girls hanging out in the kitchen (wow, what a surprise huh?) and then the software beeps and they RUN to the work stations..first one to the profile gets to chat (and earn money). 

 Is your Russian bride constantly sending out form letters?

One piece of advice that I give is to have a slightly different name for yourself  than your profile name.  For example, my full name is Padraic but I am referred to as "Paddy". If a girl knows me and she sends a letter to "Padraic" it is spam from the agency and I do not reply. I also change the city in my profile from where I actually live.  When you see letters that ask how you are doing in Chicago but you really live in Milwaukee, you will know which letters are spam this way too. Many websites such as HotRussianBrides requires that you utilize your legal name and this is an opportunity to use a differnt name in chat and letters..."John" can easily become "Johnny or Jack"

Guys, do not ignore the warning signs!!  If you see a consistent pattern of inconsistency...RUN!!! These girls are well trained and they are professionals at bilking you so you need to learn how to identify the sincere Russian brides.

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Paddy Deighan JD PhD
http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

Anastasia S. (Profile only available to members)

ACCESS to your Russian Bride!

There is a sound business principle that I embraced many years ago. It is referred to as "Superior Access Vehicle". I heard a lot about this from Jay Abraham and Chet Holmes (God rest his soul). I have had the pleasure of collaborating with these gentlemen on projects.  Superior Access is a business theory that suggests that consumers will pay additional money for "superior access" to something. An example would be paying $75 for a concert ticket but also be willing to pay and extra $200 for a back-stage pass.

Millions of men are online to find Russian brides. This is no secret!! There are literally thousands of websites to facilitate this desire. I have yet to find one website for Slavic men to meet American women (OUCH-LOL). The truth hurts sometimes!

These sites offer a modicum of "superior access". They have multiple levels of membership options and you pay for additional services.  They also promote tours that are the equivalent of an eighth grade dance meets circle jerk!! They also allow you to pay a fee (typically $100) to get personal contact information on the Russian bride.  Is this REALLY superior access"?  The answer is No, Nyet, Nein!!

First of all, most Russian brides do not have an email address. If they do, it is frequently monitored by the dating agency.  Many have cell phones but the phones are either owned by the agency or the agency provides a second phone for the Russian bride to utilize to communicate with website contacts.  In fact, more often than not, you are not actually speaking to the Russian bride...you are probably speaking to a translator when you call!!

Many Russian brides utilize social networking sites to communicate. This replaces an email address. The most popular is VK (vKohntakte - "in contact").   The problem here is that the agencies either "own" the lady's profile or they control it via log in information.  They monitor the site to see if the lady is communicating with Western men.

For some reason, the girls live in fear of the agencies and we will explain this phenomenon in future blogs. Guys, wake up and realize that you do not have the access to girls that you think that you do and in most instances, you are not actually speaking with the Russian bride.

We know this because we own an agency in Odessa...we know what goes on!!

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Alina G. (profile info only available to members)

Join Us in Odessa Beach Club IBIZA May 30-June 1st!!

We will be hosting the first of many Summer events in Odessa next weekend!!  On May 30, 31 and June 1st we will be at Ibiza at Arcadia..the famous Odessa beach club venue.  Join us for a great time. Make new friends and meet some of our Russian brides!! Beach, Brides, and Beverages!! What could be better than that? :)

Ibiza is internationally known as THE Summer venue in Odessa. It is a largely outdoor venue and it comes alive in the late afternoon and early evenings - especially on the weekends!!

Stop by and chat..ask questions and learn a LOT about what we offer and the industry in general. We think that you will find that out first-hand knowledge, sincerity and experience is what sets us apart form the competition.

If you plan on attending, email Ken (ken@bestmeetingclub.com) and he will be pleased to make some arrangements with you. If it is off hours in Ukraine, email Paddy (paddy@bestmeetingclub.com). We will be happy to meet you and discuss your future with a gorgeous Russian bride.

Every time that we hold such events, the UKRAINIAN men ask us how we meet such beautiful women. They are never hostile..they genuinely want to know how we are able to meet Russian brides and have them clamoring to date US!! I have heard many times, from many dating gurus such as Chet Rowland, Dave D'Angelo and others comment that "women are the same everywhere". I can agree to that in part...certainly some things apply to most women.  However, Ukrainian woman and Russian brides are VERY different and unless or until you understand and appreciate this...you will get NOWHERE with them!! Russian brides are VERY different from American woman. One small but significant example is that American women view compliments as a sign of weakness - that you have no game.  The Waschlappen guys that incessantly compliment American women get met with yawns and cha - ching, NO SALE!!

Russian brides not only appreciate compliments, but they expect them!!

Sooo, stop by and say hello at Ibiza next weekend...you will be glad that you did!! Yo may even meet Dasha K (pictured below) and others!!

Paddy Deighan  JD PhD

http://www.bestmeetingclub.com

Russian Brides and our New Facebook Page

BestMeetingClub.com has added a Facebook page. Join us at http://www.facebook.com/russianbridestomarry and be sure to "like us". We are constantly updating and upgrading and we had a few questions that we thought we could answer here.

It is pretty well known that many agencies in Ukraine have girls that are not on the dating websites. Sometimes they are referred to as "ringers". This implies that the agency only offers them to men when the men travel to Ukraine and appear to be of significant income.  Guys, you do not want to meet a "ringer".  These girls know every trick in the book and they typically are earning a split on what they can get out of the "taxi scam", "translator scam", "restaurant scam" and others.  These girls are pros at it and they will deceive you in ways that you cannot imagine.

We are frequently asked if we have girls that are not on the website.

The answer is yes...but we have a good reason for it. Some of our girls are professional models and beauty queens. While they aspire to be your Russian bride, they are prohibited from posting photos in the public domain. We have added a "members only" section to accommodate this. Members will be able to view and meet these girls.  We have to respect their need for privacy and in most cases, they are contractually prohibited from posting photos on the internet.  One of our girls is a top international model and another is a former Miss Teen Ukraine.

Other girls have had bad experiences on traditional international dating websites and they have asked us to respect their privacy. They inherently trust Ken Sartain, the staff and I but they are living in a fear-based society and it is best to protect their privacy as much as possible. These girls are some of the most sincere and "down to earth"  girls that you will ever meet.

Join us on Facebook and check back frequently for events now that the Summer is upon us!!

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